Indoor rowing fundraiser for Rich

Hi All – another epic fundraiser is on the go in DUBAI. Please join!

The event registration for the first prelims of the WaterRower Indoor Rowing competition is online under the following link,

There is money up for grabs for the winner, but most importantly raising funds and awareness for Rich. Thanks to everyone who is taking part!

Sister of the Mister update

Mum and dad are having a wonderful and restful time overseas but here at home, we’ve been having fun! I somehow managed to trip and blow a fuse in Richie’s room so last night he was left in darkness (Ooops). Rich thought this was a classic Pippa move – I mean what do you expect from your clumsy sister! Thank heavens the electrician is coming today. Paw Paw our little poodle has finally grown enough to jump onto Richie’s bed unaided! Picture this, Richie is happy and chilled watching a very entertaining Robin Williams stand up session (Thanks Sarah) and Pawpie leaps up, lands on the computer, pauses it somehow (lucky it didn’t end up in Spanish) and uncontrollably licks Rich. The loudest and most effervescent laughter ensues with Rich trying his very best to turn his head fast enough to avoid the passionate licking from our gorgeous puppy. He has been eating plenty (Mum prepared and froze some gourmet moolied up options) and Rich has been devouring them. His swallowing is getting so strong. Except for yesterday, when he decided to laugh whilst eating and choke. I did the typical Pippa move and asked “Are you choking to death” – No he blinks and laughs even more at the sheer fact that his sister could be so blunt. Needless to say he was fine… That is one of many laughs and good times had by Mister since the parentals have been away. He’s had wonderful visitors, amazing times in the Sun with his carers and is in great spirits. If you’d like to pop in, or send him messages, please do. He’s on Facebook so feel free to write on his wall and either Sarah or I or one of his carers will read them to him! Thanks for the constant support #TeamRich. xx Pips

Traumatic Brain Injury- what we know 22 months later

Looking back, it’s probably best that we didn’t know what was coming. No one really wants to know that life is about to become difficult — very difficult.

But now with the benefit of time passed, I realise that the good doctors really were doing the best they could. Who are we to question, there is no time and purpose to the questions. They are just barriers to forward progress. Life is challenging enough.

We were all so innocent during that first year after Rich’s injury. We believed we were working so hard on his rehab and giving the injury time to heal while waiting for life to return to normal. Life did return to normal, but it’s the new TBI normal.

There was so much we just didn’t know during year one post-injury and still don’t know today. I’m almost grateful for what we didn’t know. It’s taken 22 months for the severity of Richies TBI to become clear. Early on, well-respected doctors — doctors doing the best they could in this strange and so often unpredictable land of traumatic brain injury — gave all sorts of predictions. From good recovery to loss of some function which can often be regained with intense therapy. Never, ever was he going to be the one that was left with no movement or voice. Surely that can’t really happen. That’s not living……That’s crazy…… How could that even be part of our conversation…..

Well, say no more.
All we do know now, is the unpredictability of TBI and its mammoth recovery and that living life in the moment is the only reality and the real key to being okay with all this. In the moment, there is no fear of an uncertain future. In the moment, there is no regret for choices that could have been made differently. There is safety, security, and peace to be found in this moment.
Sadly though for Richie, there is not that same peace. How can there be???

31 July 2014

Well as you can see from Pippa’s post yesterday, it’s been a more than usually hard few days for Rich. These rougher patches come out of the blue just when we think we have cleared another hurdle. They are a cruel reminder again of Richies hard reality.
I was walking on the mountain yesterday in the late afternoon with a darling school friend from 40 years ago. It had been a particularly torrid day and she asked me how I saw Richies situation.
Sadly my response was
” He is in a jail without walls – free within that jail to do anything he desires, but instead he is a prisoner in his own body. Unable to move or communicate enough to enjoy any freedom. He is locked in to his own jail and then on many days he is tortured by crippling headaches, chest congestion and coughing, discomfort from the increased tone that brain injury brings, and all to which he is absolutely helpless to act upon without the constant vigilance and care from one of his devoted team.”
Richie, that independent, free spirited adventurer who was always striving to experience more from life and who loved to be outside doing something physical, never asking help from anyone, now locked in to that same amazing body which he used with such ease and had such respect for. A mammoth ask of any young man.
May God keep his light shining on our boy, may you all keep him in your prayers and thoughts and may this friggin traumatic brain injury monster just relent now and allow Rich some real healing and respite.
He has been nothing short of AMAZING. Gracious, patient and forever pushing to heal. He needs a good break to come from somewhere now. We continue to pray and wait for the miracle.
The break in his days that he does does get however comes from all the love and support of you, his friends and supporters. Your contact and caring are his reminder that there is still some light in his jail without walls and hopefully keeps him striving to get back to enjoying the life he had with you all.
Thanks everyone for being there for us all. You are all amazing.

Richie update

Hey Team Rich.
Sorry for the lack of news lately.Rich is very happy with the plaster of Paris off and we are on a mission to get him strapped into that tilt table and upright.

Unfortunately, he has been having a run of headaches and hard days this week, and it on these days that the hard reality hits him, and us again. These things happen and all we can do is support him and hope that he gets some respite. It’s over 18 months since Rich’s accident and the harsh reality is, with an aggressive brain stem injury like Rich has, we are only barely off the start line.
Thank you for your constant love and support to our loyal, loving Team Rich across the globe.

As always, please come visit Rich – without doubt he would love to see and hear from you. If you’d like to send him a specific message in the meantime or even just say hi, you can either comment below or inbox this page and we will read it to him. xxx